Time often feels like the ultimate enemy. There never seems to be enough of it.
Days blur into weeks, and the feeling of “falling behind” grows heavier with every passing moment. But here’s a truth that might reshape your perspective:
You Cannot “Make” Time.
The Myth of "Making" Time
Time is finite. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never conjure an extra hour in the day. What you can do is reclaim and reshape the time you already have. This shift in mindset—from trying to “make” time to creating space for what matters—is the first little step toward big success.
This matters whether you're building a dream or rebuilding your life. The key lies not in squeezing more into your day but in clearing space for the actions, reflections, and rest that will propel you forward.
1. Find Zones for Space in Your Schedule
Start by identifying “dead zones” in your day—moments where time is either misused or wasted. Common culprits? Mindless scrolling, prolonged indecision, or tasks that don’t align with your values or goals.
Solution:
Audit Your Day: For one week, track how you spend your time. Be honest, even if it’s uncomfortable.
Reclaim the Gaps: Once you identify these zones, decide how to repurpose them. A 20-minute scroll through social media could become a walk, a chapter of a book, or brainstorming ideas for your goals.
You already have the time—you just need to claim it.
2. Understand How Long Things Actually Take
We’re often guilty of overestimating or underestimating how long a task will take. This leads to frustration, missed deadlines, and the feeling that life is spiraling out of control.
Solution:
Time Reality Check: Pick a few common tasks and time yourself doing them.
Set Buffer Zones: Build extra time into your schedule to accommodate delays or misjudgments.
When you align your expectations with reality, your day becomes manageable instead of maddening.
3. Be Honest About Spare Time
Many men claim they “don’t have time” to work on themselves, their goals, or their relationships. But the truth is, we all have spare moments—it’s just a matter of how we’re using them.
Solution:
Radical Honesty: Ask yourself, “What am I really doing with my spare time?” If the answer is numbing out or avoiding challenges, it’s time to pivot.
Shift the Narrative: Use those small windows to build momentum. Five minutes can mean a mindfulness exercise, a gratitude note, or jotting down tomorrow’s priorities.
Your spare time is a hidden goldmine. Spend it wisely, and it will yield rich rewards.
4. Stress Isn’t About Hard Work—It’s About Misaligned Work
Let’s bust another myth: hard work doesn’t cause stress. Stress comes from pouring energy into things that don’t matter or failing to organize and prioritize your efforts.
Solution:
Reassess Your Priorities: Are you spending time on tasks that truly align with your values and mission?
Simplify Your Work: Break large tasks into smaller, manageable chunks. Celebrate each step forward.
When your work is aligned with your purpose, it becomes a source of energy—not exhaustion.
5. Learn and Apply Effective Scheduling Tools
Tools like the Eisenhower Matrix and the Pomodoro Technique can help you prioritize tasks and maintain focus.
The Eisenhower Matrix:
Urgent and Important: Do it now.
Important but Not Urgent: Schedule it.
Urgent but Not Important: Delegate it.
Neither Urgent Nor Important: Delete it.
The Pomodoro Technique:
Work for 25 minutes, take a 5-minute break. Repeat four times, then take a longer 15-30 minute break.
Why They Work:
These tools force you to confront what truly matters and keep your mind sharp and focused.
“Space” Creates Momentum
Here’s the thing: every big success begins with little steps. And those steps need space to happen. By shifting your focus from trying to make time to creating space within it, you free yourself to take deliberate, meaningful action.
Whether you’re rebuilding after adversity or chasing a long-held dream, your time is your most precious resource. Use it to fuel your mission, honor your priorities, and move steadily toward the life you’re working to create.
So start small. Find the gaps, be honest with yourself, and use your tools.
Big success is built one reclaimed moment at a time.
To start a new journey, your first task is to assess your current position.
I encourage you to download “Your First Step Toward New Horizons: How To Begin Forging a Fresh Path For Your Life”. I refer to it as “The Quiz” for short!
By taking this quiz, you can promptly identify your current stage in the transformation process, enabling you to make well-informed decisions about your next move.
A quick and simple way to accelerate your journey to the life you aspire to create!